I learned recently that my
We were discussing classes and school, me giving the usual barrage of "you need to study more" comments. It always seems like I'm lecturing these days. Honestly he's been struggling. It's a difficult year with difficult classes. The grades have not been good, or at least some subjects have not been good. Interestingly enough, English has not been one of the problematic subjects causing
The conversation went something like this:
Me: Blah, blah, blah. "And what are you doing in English? Are you doing any writing? I know your teacher had lots of books for you to read (this I know based on one of the three Back To School Nights I attended last fall - that's what happens when you have three kids). How come I never see you reading your books?"
Teenager: "Oh I don't read them. They're all so boring. Have you read Brave New World mom? It's so boring!"
Me: "Uh, well, how do you pass the class then?"
Teenager: "Spark Notes, duh, Mom." Yes, he said that. Maybe I should lecture him on more respect too?
I played it off. Of course I am a hip, in-the-know mom. Spark Notes, duh. I kept my ignorance to myself, quickly picked my chin up off the floor and babbled on. We chatted more and I learned all the books they've "read" in class. It seems that he'll start a book and if he likes it, for example Antigone, he'll read it. If it's too boring, he jumps over to Spark Notes for the digest version.
My immediate reaction is that it's cheating. On the other hand, it seems like he is making an effort to try the book and whether he reads it or not, he's getting the plot and analysis.
What do you think? If it's cheating, how can I stop it? Even if I block the site at home, he could find another computer somewhere else if he really doesn't want to read the book. I can